Cringy as fuck!
I know what y'all are thinking, "This shit here is sad as fuck, how embarrassing". And I agree.
But, there is a lesson to be learned here-an important one! See, there is alot of Chriseans in this world. Hell, you might even know a few of them (shit, you might be a Chrisean too). But the lesson to be learned here in addition to self love is paying attention to the signs and making the conscious choice to ignore them! Let me break this down for you....
Red flags look like Six Flags when you're having fun..
When we are vulnerable and lack self love due to whatever traumas we are dealing with, we are at risk of attaching ourselves to fuck boys who are ready to fuck us over without a second thought. These fuck boys are like sharks, they smell blood (desperation) in the water! Now, I know some
of you are thinking, "Mama Magical, some women are just as vicious". And you are right, I'll get to that soon...give me a minute.
When we are not at our very best, then we will fall dangerously in love. Truth is, in this state of mind, you are not seeking love at all, you are seeking attention and dependancy. And for this reason, you will make excuses for poor behavior, cheating, and disrespect. We will get mad, react, second guess ourselves, then boom- take him right back. And just like that-the toxic cycle begins. Once again love is not what we are really seeking in this state of mind, attention is. The escape out of this situation is realization. He is not the real problem, you are boo. See this is where accountability comes to play. Don't get it twisted, he is still wrong as two left feet. But surely we don't expect them to know our worth more then we do... right?
Fuck is wrong with you crazy ass girl?!
Ladies, it is time for self assessment. Women can be just as fucked up in the head. Here he is trying to leave, and now your ass is running up behind him trying to grab all on his shirt, swinging on him and stretching his collar out. Calling him a bitch while scratching his face up. Now his sisters, cousins, and mama want to whoop yo' ass! Baby, thee absolute worst thing you can do is attempt to stop a man from getting the fuck away from you! If that man is trying to leave, let him leave. Nine times out of ten he is probably trying his very best not to go upside your head. We have to stop this behavior at once. It is not cute and it will not make him love you more I assure you-even if he does "come back". Another thing is the clingy behavior. This type of behavior will not make him think you love him "oh so much". Instead, he will think that you do not have a life and your whole world revolves around him. If you want a man to take advantage of you...do this, be clingy. There is a thick line between being his mama and being his girlfriend- know the difference!
They only love you as much as you love yourself boo...
The truth is, people only meet us exactly where we are in life. Our partners are a direct reflection of what we feel we deserve. Nobody will ever be more responsible to love us more then we love ourselves. We set the tone, we set the standard for that. You see, we really do teach people how to love us, we demonstrate this by the way we love ourselves. If a man witnesses you putting yourself on a pedal stool he will subconsciously know that he can not come any less then that! Trust!
Always remember, the best relationship that you will ever have is the one you have with yourself...